Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor’s Paragraph - September 24, 2020

Dear Beloved Siblings,

I frequently ask you how you are and tell you that I miss you because you continue to be in my heart, mind, and prayers. I thank God for you. As I continue to reflect on the idea of living with an open heart or tender heart or living from the core, I invite you to pause. Sometime today or tomorrow, I hope you can take time to find a comfortable position and roll your shoulders back.

Dear Beloved Siblings,

I frequently ask you how you are and tell you that I miss you because you continue to be in my heart, mind, and prayers. I thank God for you. As I continue to reflect on the idea of living with an open heart or tender heart or living from the core, I invite you to pause. Sometime today or tomorrow, I hope you can take time to find a comfortable position and roll your shoulders back.  Feel your chest open up. Take time to breathe deeply from way down in your being. Feel God's living, moving, creating, restoring Spirit connecting you to God, to God's children near and far, and to God's dreams for the world.

This summer I have been grateful for people who have helped me think more deeply about healing. As a pastor's kid, athlete, and occupational therapist, healing is something that I've thought about in many ways. This summer the desire to live with a fully open heart has led me to focus on God's gifts of healing in new ways. Our hearts need healing individually and collectively, and we were created with the potential to mend and grow. God offers us healing through grace. It is free, but that does not mean it is easy. Healing can be difficult. Healing may not come in the ways we imagine or hope for. Healing has many layers and forms. As I think about healing, I hear Jesus asking, "Do you want to be well?" in the gospel stories. I also hear him asking, "What do you want from me?" Friends, may we seek God's healing of our broken hearts that we may live in ways that create space and opportunities for all people to live and breathe fully. Jesus was about the work of healing. How might we share the love of Jesus with others through the spiritual practice of allowing our Creator to heal and open our own hearts? We are not alone. God will never leave or forsake us. I leave you with this quote. May it be a blessing to you!  May we breathe God's healing love in and out~

"Healing is a practice. It's not a one-time thing or an idea. If I get up and do a bunch of exercises and repeat them, over time my muscles will get stronger.  Healing is a practice just like that."  

Marnita Schroedl, (P. 151 My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem)

With gratitude for you,

Sarah

31 The crowd rebuked them and told them to be quiet, but they shouted all the louder, "Lord, Son of David, have mercy on us!" 32 Jesus stopped and called them. "What do you want me to do for you?" he asked. 33 "Lord," they answered, "we want our sight."  Matthew 20:31-33

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor’s Paragraph - September 17, 2020

In the midst of the pandemic we are also enduring hurricanes and wildfires. Many have suffered illness, death, displacement, the loss of property and the emotional toll that catastrophe entails. Our hearts and prayers go out to those suffering.

In the midst of the pandemic we are also enduring hurricanes and wildfires. Many have suffered illness, death, displacement, the loss of property and the emotional toll that catastrophe entails. Our hearts and prayers go out to those suffering.

The faith and mission of Friedens Church steadies us and gives us something helpful to do.

  • Our trust in a God who is present in our sufferings brings an abiding sense of peace and strength.

  • The message of our Leader, Jesus, that we are the loved and loving children of God reminds us of who we are and whose we are.

  • The mission of sharing Christ's love helps us affirm we are one human family and empowers us to lend a helping hand to our sisters and brothers. We are in this together and we need each other.

  • The reservoir of spiritual practices in our tradition is a source of calm in the storm, a way to discover peace when anxiety unsettles us.

Here is a spiritual practice Julie, Ashley and I are following, and I encourage your household to try. It is based on this invitation from our sacred and ancient tradition: cast your cares on God, for God cares for you.

It is a simple two step practice:

  1. Each day name a specific care, worry, concern or burden you are feeling.

  2. Ask God to help carry that worry or burden.

This simple practice is a way to acknowledge that we are never alone and we never need to shoulder all of life's burdens by ourselves. We are in this together with Christ our Leader, Friend and Helper.

May the peace of Christ be with you,

Marc

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Pastor Pam Taylor Pastor Pam Taylor

Pastor’s Paragraph - September 10, 2020

All things in our lives change, even our prayers. Over time I have explored new ways of prayer, some of which have enriched my spiritual life temporarily and some for longer term. One of the things I have tried over a longer period of time is starting prayer with some self-examining questions. I often like to take a few notes on my answers. I start by asking myself:  how do I feel? This helps me to keep in touch with what is going on in my life that I might need to give to prayer. I might feel tired, drained, anxious, happy. How I feel may be a clue to something that I am not taking time to recognize in my daily life.

Exploring Prayer

All things in our lives change, even our prayers. Over time I have explored new ways of prayer, some of which have enriched my spiritual life temporarily and some for longer term. One of the things I have tried over a longer period of time is starting prayer with some self-examining questions. I often like to take a few notes on my answers. I start by asking myself:  how do I feel? This helps me to keep in touch with what is going on in my life that I might need to give to prayer. I might feel tired, drained, anxious, happy. How I feel may be a clue to something that I am not taking time to recognize in my daily life.

I also ask myself:  what are my thoughts? What am I thinking about and what is on my mind that might need discernment or prayer. It is also a good time to let go of thoughts to be more focused on prayer. I ask myself:  what is my intention for prayer - What do I need right now - love, comfort, discernment?
Because this prayer time is contemplative I ask myself what word I want to bring to prayer to help me stay focused on God's Presence. Sometime I use the word peace and sometimes the peace of Christ. At this point I might ask myself how I will transition into silent resting and healing in the Presence of God. Sometimes I transition by cleansing breaths and sometimes by intercessory prayer for the needs of someone or something which comes to mind.

Then I enter into the process of silent awareness, waiting, healing, and feeling God's love. The awareness of God's Presence reminds me that there is nothing more I need, that I can give time to God and let go of the busyness in my mind. Some say that God is in the silence.

Afterward I ponder my quiet time thinking about how I feel and is this different than when I began. I think about what kind of things distracted me and what insight I received from the time with God. I end with recognizing the result of this time which is often awe or thankfulness, and sometimes amazement that I lasted through the quiet time.

I hope you will consider trying to have a quiet time with God. It does not have to be long. I also hope you will try asking yourself some questions about how you are coming to and going from your prayer time. I would like to hear what questions come to your mind.

Be still, and know that I am God. (Psalm 46:10)

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor’s Paragraph - September 3, 2020

In my last note to you in the e-news, I shared that I had been hearing about tender-hearted living very regularly. I also shared that the spiritual practice of examen, which involves reflecting on each day, is something that helps me in my desire to live with an open and courageous heart. Another spiritual practice that supports me in seeking to live with a tender heart is connecting with God's creation. 

In my last note to you in the e-news, I shared that I had been hearing about tender-hearted living very regularly. I also shared that the spiritual practice of examen, which involves reflecting on each day, is something that helps me in my desire to live with an open and courageous heart. Another spiritual practice that supports me in seeking to live with a tender heart is connecting with God's creation. Spending time enjoying and giving thanks for the beauty and wonder of that which God has made slows me down. Admiring and reflecting upon God's majesty and nearness revealed in creation offers me healing and space to be curious, imaginative, and calmer. Are there aspects of God's creation that offer you encouragement, healing, rest, and nourishment? What are your favorite ways to connect with God's creation and/or God's creative and creating Spirit? Are there stories in the Bible that connect you with an experience of awe, gratitude, or humility as we feel the power and grace of God? God's covenant symbolized in a rainbow, the parting of the Red Sea, the provision of quail and manna, the calming of the sea, the trembling of the earth in the stories of Jesus' death and resurrection, the tree of life....also invite me to pause in amazement of God's work and gift of our interconnectedness and dependency on God's world. 

May you find time - even a few moments or breaths at a time - to soak in the compassion and grace of the Creator, renewing us and strengthening us to go forth as loved and loving children of God. 

With gratitude and prayers,

Sarah

317-709-5857 pastorsarah.friedensucc@outlook.com.

"Then the angel showed me the river of the water of life, as clear as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and his servants will serve him."

Revelation 22:1-3      

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor’s Paragraph - August 27, 2020

A recent theme in worship has to do with waiting, an apt topic for this time. We are eagerly awaiting the end of the pandemic. We yearn for the peace of loving, just and respectful relationships.

But there is more to waiting than getting through the current season of adversity…

A recent theme in worship has to do with waiting, an apt topic for this time. We are eagerly awaiting the end of the pandemic. We yearn for the peace of loving, just and respectful relationships.

But there is more to waiting than getting through the current season of adversity. Waiting is part of the life of faith. We trust God to do what we cannot. We affirm that God's ways are beyond ours. We acknowledge that God's timing is different from ours. We wait with expectation. We wait while giving ourselves to Divine values of justice, kindness and humility. We do our part while waiting for the ultimate fulfillment of God's intention for Shalom, comprehensive well-being for all of creation.

The ancient prophet put it this way: Those who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not grow weary, they shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31)

A contemporary prophet, named Howard Thurman, expresses the challenge of this scriptural promise, writing: I want to wait upon the Lord but somehow I cannot bring myself to it. For so long, I have depended upon my own efforts that I must be taught trust...This is a discipline. And yet it does not have the elements of discipline in it. Discipline means effort at times, self-control, a certain mastery of self or the situation. But the discipline of trust is a putting down, an easing up, a releasing of tension, an intense relaxation of spirit. Somehow this release is identified in my mind with failure, with weakness of which something within me is afraid and ashamed.

The Rev. Thurman articulates the trouble with waiting. Waiting requires we set aside our own agenda, plans and timing in exchange for trusting the agenda, plans and timing of God. That is a tall order. We like being in charge! The trouble is, so much of life is quite beyond us and our control. What to do?

We can try waiting for the Lord. We can admit our limitations and shortcomings. We can give control to the One who can handle it. We can be liberated from the anxiety of pretending to be more than we are. We can trust that Divine life and love prevail. The gap of our weakness can be filled by the strength of God. We can know true meaning and purpose by waiting for the Lord.

Pastors Sarah, Pam and I are here to support your life in faith. Are you feeling frustrated or afraid and ready to try waiting on the Lord? Reach out, we can point you in the right direction.

In Christ's love,

Marc

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Pastor Pam Taylor Pastor Pam Taylor

Pastor’s Paragraph - August 20, 2020

Joy is Fruit of the Spirit

I recently completed auditing a course from Yale University called The Science of Happiness. It was based on a lot of research, part of which was the basis for a book The Science of Happier Spending by Elizabeth Dunn. You can get a quick highlight of her ideas on her Ted Talk. All of this reminded me of the Christian concepts set out by Richard Foster. Foster claims that one of the disciplines of the Christian is choosing simplicity for our lives.

Joy is Fruit of the Spirit

I recently completed auditing a course from Yale University called The Science of Happiness. It was based on a lot of research, part of which was the basis for a book The Science of Happier Spending by Elizabeth Dunn. You can get a quick highlight of her ideas on her Ted Talk. All of this reminded me of the Christian concepts set out by Richard Foster. Foster claims that one of the disciplines of the Christian is choosing simplicity for our lives.

In a nutshell the science of happiness states that we often expect happiness to come from making more money, having more things, and advancing in a career. These, of course, are not bad achievements but In reality, according to huge amounts of research, these accomplishments provide shorter lived happiness. Not only are these accomplishments less fulfilling but our minds reinforce these false happiness beliefs with unreliable predictions that success gives the greater happiness.

One study in particular measured the happiness people received when they were given money but told they had to give it away. The pleasure they received from giving away money was significant in intensity as well as being long lasting. Foster also mentions the habit of giving things away as a key to simplicity. 

One way we can intentionally transition to more fulfilling accomplishments is through habit formation. So, according to the research, we need to:  seek and invest in experiences that include character strength, morals, kindness, connections, and compassion. We also need to reinforce these desires by savoring the experiences and being aware of our gratitude for them. 

I find great spiritual peace in finding that psychological research often is in agreement with spiritual wisdom. The difference between the two is that we are seeking and experiencing joy for Christ-likeness rather than for personal fulfillment.

Gal. 5: 22-3: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor’s Paragraph - August 13, 2020

In the last few weeks, I have heard a number of conversations about tender-hearted living, courageous living, or living from our core in many different places and circles.  What does tender-hearted living, courageous living, or living from your core mean to you? 

In the last few weeks, I have heard a number of conversations about tender-hearted living, courageous living, or living from our core in many different places and circles.  What does tender-hearted living, courageous living, or living from your core mean to you?  If you'd like to share what it means to you and/or how you experience it, I'd be excited to hear from you.  Please feel free to email me at the new email - pastorsarah.friedensucc@outlook.com.

When I think of courage and tender-hearted living, two Bible passages come to mind:

"I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh."  Ezekiel 36:26

And

"Have I not commanded you?  Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."  Joshua 1:9

Knowing that God is with me wherever we go, helps me to trust in God and rest in God.  In being grounded and rooted in God's faithfulness and steadfast love, we can open our hearts.  We can ask God to continue to create tender hearts within us.  Are there spiritual practices that help you lean into the beautiful possibilities of tender-hearted living that God offers us in each moment? 

The spiritual practice of examen helps me to work towards tender-hearted living.  For me, the spiritual practice of examen involves asking God's Spirit to help me reflect upon the day or part of the day.  Taking time to reflect, opens opportunities for me to express gratitude for experiences that I may have overlooked in the moment, and it creates space for me to see and feel places where my ego got in the way of my heart.  Examen helps me humbly confess my own sins and my need for God's transforming grace.  Sometimes this practice happens for me in the quiet and other times on the move.  Thanks be to God that God's mercies are always present.  We can rejoice in the unconditional love of God!  May you feel this love holding you, surrounding you, filling you, encouraging you, and moving you as we journey together.  You are prayed for.  You are loved!

With gratitude for you,

Sarah 

317-709-5857, pastorsarah.friedensucc@outlook.com 

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Pastor’s Paragraph - August 6, 2020

Charles de Foucauld is a saint of the church who lived from 1858-1916. Born into a wealthy French family he lost his way as a young man when his parents died, leaving him with great sadness, no firm direction and too many resources at his disposal. A life pursuing self-centered desires brought him to a place of emptiness. Not knowing what else to do, he joined the French Army…

Charles de Foucauld is a saint of the church who lived from 1858-1916. Born into a wealthy French family he lost his way as a young man when his parents died, leaving him with great sadness, no firm direction and too many resources at his disposal. A life pursuing self-centered desires brought him to a place of emptiness. Not knowing what else to do, he joined the French Army, which offered some desperately needed structure and discipline. His military career took him to Algeria, where he discovered a call to faith in the devotion and purpose he witnessed in the Moslem people of that region. Charles left the military and while exploring Morocco had a mystical experience of Christ that focused his life on discipleship. Over time he became a priest devoted to contemplative prayer and a simple life serving the poor in imitation of Christ.

The sense of belonging, meaning and purpose he found so elusive as a young man in a life of wealth and pleasure was finally fulfilled in devotion to loving God by loving others. Charles is remembered for a simple prayer that was the foundation of his spiritual life:

O God, I abandon myself into your hands, do with me what you will. Whatever you may do, I thank you; I am ready for all, I accept all. Let only your will be done in me, and in all your creatures. I wish no more than this, O Lord. Into your hands I commend my soul; I offer it to you with all the love of my heart, for I love you, Lord, and so need to give myself, to surrender myself into your hands without reserve, and with boundless confidence, for you are my Savior. Amen.

What a brave expression of commitment!

I wonder what changes we might experience if we made this our daily prayer?

I wonder what sense of purpose and meaning we might discover in our lives with a deeper commitment to loving God by loving others?

Might this be a path toward healing in our divided world?

Yours in Christ,

Pastor Marc

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Pastor’s Paragraph - July 30, 2020

The Dark Night of the Soul and Hope

The dark night of the soul describes a spiritual change or crisis in the faith journey. This idea was taken from a very long poem written by St. John of the Cross in the 1500's. Philosophers and other religious writers have also written on this concept. Some people describe this crisis as…

The Dark Night of the Soul and Hope

The dark night of the soul describes a spiritual change or crisis in the faith journey. This idea was taken from a very long poem written by St. John of the Cross in the 1500's. Philosophers and other religious writers have also written on this concept. Some people describe this crisis as losing faith while others experience it more as not being able to "get in touch" with their faith. Their faith is there but it kind of sits over to the side.

I have read a similar idea as expressed by David Brooks, a sociologist and Richard Rohr, a priest and religious writer. They both describe "living on the edge of the inside." They both describe groups of: 1. people who are in leadership (insiders) in organizations and churches, 2. people who are outsiders, and 3. those on the "edge of the inside." Although it sounds like these people might be wishy-washy, this is not what they are describing. They are describing people who recognize that their organizations or churches don't have all the answers for them and they become more fluid in their beliefs while not losing their faith. At times they become critical thinkers and integrate the faith from different perspectives. Richard Rohr actually names prophets in this group.

The lesson of these writings is that we are all fluid in our beliefs and faith. I would not be surprised if the pandemic influences our spiritual "place" now and then. Jesus' good news is that when we hold on to His Father's gift of love we move around in beliefs with an open heart and remain in His love. We may experience cleansing, healing, and growth in this movement and come to appreciate other's places of faith more. Hopefully we might be motivated by God's expansive love to be more open to sharing and listening to differences.

Perhaps we might be encouraged to suffer the wandering child in our own heart and hang in there for our own continual coming home - even when home looks a little different and continues to change. So as we go through the many emotions of isolation the dark night of the soul arises into a morning. Crucifixion arises into resurrection. Love yourself as God loves you and know that you are never locked into the final experience of faith. Faith dances!

 

Hebrews 11:1 

Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, 
the conviction of things not seen.

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor’s Paragraph - July 23, 2020

Dear Friends,

What have you been enjoying in different ways this summer? Water is something that I am experiencing differently this summer. I've been a YMCA person since the age of two, except during college, but even in college, I was lap swimming with teams for workouts a few times a week. Since COVID I have mostly adjusted to being out of the pool. A few days ago, I had one of the strong sensations that connected me to my deepest enjoyment of lap swimming…

Dear Friends,

What have you been enjoying in different ways this summer? Water is something that I am experiencing differently this summer. I've been a YMCA person since the age of two, except during college, but even in college, I was lap swimming with teams for workouts a few times a week. Since COVID I have mostly adjusted to being out of the pool. A few days ago, I had one of the strong sensations that connected me to my deepest enjoyment of lap swimming - the reminder of Jesus' saving love washing over me and setting me free from my sin - I experience this in such a deep way when I feel the water of a pool cover my body. As I thought about it, a praising came from way down in my soul - God sets us free from all that keeps us captive from being the people God creates us to be. God unbinds us from the shame and fear that keeps us from living in the abundant ways of life for all, especially those who have been or are being harmed, oppressed, marginalized, and made most vulnerable. God cleanses us and renews us for ways of transforming grace and creative reimaging. God showers us with hope and nourishes us with strength to be fully alive in the everlasting mercy and unconditional love of Jesus and the courageous work of God's Spirit. In these pandemic days, I think even more about handwashing. Washing my hands reminds me to be more thankful than ever before for access to soap and clean water. This experience of water reminds me of the gift of baptism which unites us together with all God's precious children and creatures throughout the world - all in need of water and all in need of giving and receiving love. May we pray and live in ways that make it possible for everyone to have clean water to drink and clean water for hand washing. May we share the peace and hope of the Living Water.

I look forward to hearing what is refreshing your soul in these summer days, and I thank God for you. It is a blessing to serve with you.


If we confess our sins,
he who is faithful and just will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

1 John 1:9

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor’s Paragraph - July 16, 2020

The stories from our sacred scriptures we study in Sunday worship provide a surplus of meaning. There are always ideas and insights yet to be explored. For instance, this past Sunday we looked at the story of Jesus walking on the water in order to come to the aid of the disciples who were facing stormy conditions. You can read this mysterious and astonishing account in 

Matthew 14:22-33.

The stories from our sacred scriptures we study in Sunday worship provide a surplus of meaning. There are always ideas and insights yet to be explored. For instance, this past Sunday we looked at the story of Jesus walking on the water in order to come to the aid of the disciples who were facing stormy conditions. You can read this mysterious and astonishing account in 

Matthew 14:22-33.

One of the disciples, named Peter, asks to come out on the water with Jesus. Peter reveals trust and courage as he takes a few steps with his eyes fixed on his Leader. Then, he notices the wind and the waves. His focus shifts from trust and boldness in Christ to the absurdity and danger of what he is doing. Peter begins to falter and sink. He cries out for Jesus to save him. You will likely not be surprised that Jesus takes Peter by the hand immediately and safely returns him to the boat. Once aboard with the other disciples, Jesus says, "You of little faith, why did you doubt?"

This sounds like a criticism, doesn't it? I do not think it is, I think it is a statement of reality. Thankfully, possession of a great faith is not the defining quality of discipleship. In fact, in Matthew 17:20, Jesus affirms the power of a little faith. He insists that: "if you have faith the size of a mustard seed...nothing will be impossible for you." Jesus affirms that Peter has a little faith and that is sufficient. Nor is Jesus question meant to belittle Peter. Jesus does not ask, why did you think you could walk on water? No, Jesus asks, why did you doubt you could walk on water? Do you hear that important difference? What Jesus asks, opens-up the possibilities for Peter to be bold and put his little faith to work in surprising ways. When Peter steps out in faith he needs to keep his focus on Jesus and ignore the fear and any naysayers. If he can do that, "nothing will be impossible."

This is a challenging scene in the story, isn't it? After all, like Peter, we have a little faith. That little faith is sufficient. Too often we use our little faith as an excuse to stay in the boat, so to speak, to play it safe. When the truth about little faith is that it can lead to all sorts of unexpected and astonishing possibilities of receiving and sharing the love of Christ. We can learn, grow and change. We can be part of the solutions to tough problems. We can be bold and challenge the injustices that hold others back. We can trust in God's abundance and be liberated from a false narrative of scarcity and competition that pits us against one another. We can be generous and joyful in the midst of adversity.

Let's celebrate and nurture our little faith and let's boldly step out of the boat with our eyes fixed on Jesus.

Enjoy the adventure,

Pastor Marc

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Pastor’s Paragraph - July 9, 2020

Just Sayin'

I will admit that I am rather concerned by some of the things I have read on Facebook. It is not disagreement but graceful disagreement that makes the world a better place. Grace in disagreement - expressing how this issue could be different and how is an essential part of human communication and experience. As a culture we might well evolve through disagreement. Ideas subjected to criticism grow stronger than ideas left unchallenged.

 

 

Just Sayin'

 

I will admit that I am rather concerned by some of the things I have read on Facebook. It is not disagreement but graceful disagreement that makes the world a better place. Grace in disagreement - expressing how this issue could be different and how is an essential part of human communication and experience. As a culture we might well evolve through disagreement. Ideas subjected to criticism grow stronger than ideas left unchallenged.

 When I was a kid we often said to our playmates, sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me. Maybe that is true in innocent play but we knew that in reality it wasn't completely true. Words can be detrimental to our spirit as the receiver of harsh and aggressive comments. Aggressive comments tear down rather than build up.

 My biggest concern about aggressive words is the damage to the soul of the one speaking or writing them. Aggressive feelings come from anger, but aggressive words come from aggressive anger put into action. Brené Brown gives some guidelines of engaged feedback. Firstly, I know I am ready to give feedback when:

  • I'm ready to sit next to you rather thuan across from you

  • I'm willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between us (or sliding it toward you).

  • I'm ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that I may not fully understand the issue.

  • I want to acknowledge what you do well instead of picking apart your mistakes.

  • I recognize your strengths and how you can use them to address your challenges.

  • I can hold you accountable without shaming or blaming you.

  • I'm willing to own my part.

  • I can genuinely thank you for your efforts rather than criticize you for your failings.

  • I can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to your growth and opportunity.

  • I can model the vulnerability and openness that I expect to see from you.

I suspect that this sounds rather idealistic and maybe even impossible but it is certainly something to think about and something that can soothe the soul. So as you think about dealing with disagreements that need to be said, stop and think about how God would want you to prepare, what would God want you to say, and how would God want you to say it.

 

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect
the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ
.

Ephesians 4:15 (NIV).

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor’s Paragraph - July 2, 2020

Dear Friends,

I miss you. I care about you. I wonder how you are doing?

A few weeks ago, I was speaking to friend, author of Purpose: A Shift from Driving It to Embracing It, Indianapolis business woman, and community leader who shared with us at our Advent gathering and Lenten gathering this past year. We were speaking about different emotions. We spoke of awe.

Dear Friends,

I miss you.  I care about you.  I wonder how you are doing? 

A few weeks ago, I was speaking to friend, author of Purpose:  A Shift from Driving It to Embracing It, Indianapolis business woman, and community leader who shared with us at our Advent gathering and Lenten gathering this past year.  We were speaking about different emotions.  We spoke of awe. 

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What brings you awe?  For me, seeing any of God's creatures usually leaves me in awe - creatures like this little skink. 

While we cannot be together in the building sanctuary, we can enjoy the sanctuary of God's care.  We can find moments of awe in God's sanctuaries of family, friends, and creation.  We can find sanctuary in God's call to commitment to peace and ways of justice for all, especially those who have been oppressed and marginalized.  We can find sanctuary in God's forgiveness and grace.  We can find sanctuary in God's healing of our shame and guilt.  We can find sanctuary in the smile of a stranger and in the acts of the helpers. 

Where are you finding awe these days?  Where are you finding sanctuary?  Where are you finding healing?  

You are in my prayers.  Please be in touch anytime.  It is a blessing to be on this journey with you as follower of Jesus our Leader and Liberator~ Sarah

All the earth worships you;
    they sing praises to you,
    sing praises to your name."Selah
Come and see what God has done:
    he is awesome in his deeds among mortals.
He turned the sea into dry land;

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor's Paragraph - June 25th, 2020

In a meditation entitled By Their Fruits, Howard Thurman writes:

Further, I may not ever be deeply assured that I am not mistaken. I may be appraising my experience in the light of my own great need or my own previous conditioning or teaching. As a matter of fact, it is true that most of the fundamental decisions which we make are made on the basis of insufficient evidence. We cannot wait for final proof or verification. It would be too late. Thus, we wait as long as we can and then act on the basis of the total knowledge up to the present, with the hope that the future may verify our decision. This means that the decision does not have integrity in itself. Its integrity rests upon how it works out, how it unfolds.

In a meditation entitled By Their Fruits, Howard Thurman writes:

Further, I may not ever be deeply assured that I am not mistaken. I may be appraising my experience in the light of my own great need or my own previous conditioning or teaching. As a matter of fact, it is true that most of the fundamental decisions which we make are made on the basis of insufficient evidence. We cannot wait for final proof or verification. It would be too late. Thus, we wait as long as we can and then act on the basis of the total knowledge up to the present, with the hope that the future may verify our decision. This means that the decision does not have integrity in itself. Its integrity rests upon how it works out, how it unfolds.

These words resonate with me. The more I live the more I realize that my thoughts and ideas are temporary. They change and evolve as I experience and learn more and more. Though the uncertainty can be unnerving at times, the humility it produces creates space in my life for growth, openness and kindness.

Rev. Thurman had the words of Jesus in mind: "you will know them by their fruits...every good tree bears good fruit" (Matthew 7:16-17). Decisions lead to action, which leads to results. When the results disappoint us we can re-examine our decisions. Just maybe our thoughts and ideas need to change.

This feels like a time to re-examine our decisions; to test our ideas against the results we see. Covid-19 and the protests for greater equality are challenging some decisions and thinking that have been producing disappointing results. These global events give us the opportunity to re-think the way our society is structured and to re-consider how our priorities need to shift.

Let us resist the temptation to return to "normal" too quickly. Let us not turn aside from the challenge and the pain too soon. Let us consider long-term commitments to health and well-being for all, that require sacrifices now. Let us listen and learn so we can be part of the solution. Let us care more about just and equitable outcomes than being right about our thoughts and ideas.

Jesus, as always, was right. You can tell a tree by the fruit it bears. What does the fruit of your life have to say?

The grace and peace of Christ be with you,

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor's Paragraph - June 11, 2020

Wow! Thanks. Help.

Dear Friends,

Do you have any favorite tools or supports this time of year? Maybe some gardening tools, sports equipment, or lawn chair or hammock?

A few weeks ago, I heard about a new prayer tool or support…

Wow! Thanks. Help.

Dear Friends,

Do you have any favorite tools or supports this time of year? Maybe some gardening tools, sports equipment, or lawn chair or hammock?

A few weeks ago, I heard about a new prayer tool or support - I heard about it twice in one day, so I thought maybe it is something that I am meant to share. I tried it with my family at a dinner prayer and appreciated it.

My most usual prayer tool is the one that my father taught me in confirmation class and one that I often share with others - ACTS (adoration/praise, confession, thanksgiving, and supplication/asking for oneself or on the behalf of others). I like this method because it is often easy for me to fly past the confession part, but I know that I receive more understanding of how to follow Jesus when I take time to examine my life and seek forgiveness for my own sins. I know I become more whole when I confess my sins and thank God for mercy.  

The new tool that I learned is Wow (praise/adoration)! Thanks. Help. Here's a prayer that I lift up with this tool. I look forward to praying with you. If you would like to share yours, I will join you in specific prayers. If not, you continue to be in my prayers for deep peace/shalom and in our journey together as followers of Jesus. 

I miss you and love you! 

-Sarah

Wow! - Wow God your compassion and love are so amazing! Your creative energy is so powerful! Your beauty is beyond compare!

Thanks - Thank you God for family, friends, food, clean water, health, custodians, factory workers, medical personnel, grocery store workers, farmers, deliverers, researchers, caregivers, the gift of faith communities, the gift of prayer, and your everlasting mercy and patience.

Help - God, please help all who are sick, suffering, sad, and separated. Please help us to live for you and your share your love with others.

Amen.

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor's Paragraph - June 4, 2020

God is good, all the time.

We face two daunting challenges in the world our Leader loves and gave his life for: healing a novel corona virus and dismantling systemic racism. As with all daunting challenges, God is with us to guide us toward wise words and actions.

God is good, all the time.

We face two daunting challenges in the world our Leader loves and gave his life for: healing a novel corona virus and dismantling systemic racism. As with all daunting challenges, God is with us to guide us toward wise words and actions.

All the time, God is good.

We will pray for researchers to find a vaccine and treatment. We will pray for leaders to guide the wide-spread application of the treatment and vaccine when it is available. In the meantime, we do our part by taking the precautions to stem the spread, looking out for those most vulnerable and staying well to avoid overwhelming healthcare resources.

God is good, all the time.

We will pray for peace with justice for our community and nation. We will pray for wise and bold leadership to bring people together for greater understanding and to establish and implement policy that finally levels the playing field and truly fulfills the promise for "liberty and justice for all."

All the time, God is good.

In the Friedens community of faith, we have a God-given and congregationally approved Open and Affirming Covenant that articulates our commitment:


We at Friedens United Church of Christ affirm that all people are created in the image of God and are redeemed through Jesus Christ; and so, as loved children of God, all are worthy of God's love and grace. We recognize that in the history of the Church, as an institution, people have been marginalized, mistreated, and unwelcomed. We promise with God's help to dedicate our church, our ministries, and our leadership to extending an extravagant welcome, with access to the rites and sacraments of the church, and open to all persons, including but not limited to, every race, culture, ethnicity, economic status, marital status, education, background, age, physical and mental ability and attribute, sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, and political belief, as a safe place to be authentic. We commit to an on-going journey, pursuing a diverse and united community of faith and a spirit that works toward inclusivity, openness, and understanding, seeking justice, healing, and wholeness of life for all people.

God is good, all the time.

This covenant and all our ministry at Friedens are focused in keeping with a God-given and congregationally approved Mission and Vision Statement:

The church of Jesus Christ is called to serve the community and wider world (Matthew 25:34-36). Friedens UCC fulfills this calling with a mission of sharing the love of Christ with all people (Matthew 22:36-40). This mission is empowered by a commitment to inspire, train and mobilize disciples (Ephesians 4:11-13). We are called to be a church of the Great Commission of Jesus Christ, sharing the gospel with all people, helping all understand, live it and tell it (Matthew 28:16-20). We feel a special calling to minister to children and youth in the community (Mark 9:36-37). This is a ministry all can be involved in. Every member and friend of Friedens is blessed and equipped with spiritual gifts from God and encouraged to use them in a related ministry (Ephesians 4:11-12). We are striving to be a more compassionate community of faith, welcoming all to join us on the journey (Galatians 3:28).

All the time, God is good.

We have work to do: praying, fulfilling our covenant and putting into action our mission and vision.

God is good, all the time.

~Pastor Marc

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Pastor Pam Taylor Pastor Pam Taylor

Pastor’s Paragraph - May 28, 2020

Guilt
I often comment to people, if there was a guilt overdose I would be dead! During this period of time it is easy to feel guilty without even being aware of it.

Guilt 
I often comment to people, if there was a guilt overdose I would be dead! During this period of time it is easy to feel guilty without even being aware of it. Sometimes our guilt is so deeply instilled in us that it doesn't even get to the form of words. I feel guilty that younger people than myself are dying, I'm not as careful about washing my hands as I should be, I'm not doing anything for others, and I am feeling happy while people are suffering and dying. I will share this poem with you because it says what I would like to be wise enough to say:

I Worried by Mary Oliver

I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the rivers 
flow in the right direction, will the earth turn
as it was taught, and if not, how shall 
I correct it?

Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,
can I do better?

Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrows
can do it and I am, well,
hopeless.

Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,
am I going to get rheumatism,
lockjaw, demential?

Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing.
And gave it up. And took my old body
and went out into the morning
and sang.

            This kind of says it all, so sing and sing a song of worship!

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Pastor Sarah Haas Pastor Sarah Haas

Pastor's Paragraph - May 21, 2020

Dear Friends,

You are a tremendous blessing! It is a gift to serve with you. Thank you for being a loving and welcoming community of Jesus' disciples. Thank you for praying for each other and our local and global communities. Thank you for adapting to different ways of worshiping together and serving in ministry together. I am grateful for the many ways you continue to share the love of Christ with others in these times.

Dear Friends,

You are a tremendous blessing!  It is a gift to serve with you. Thank you for being a loving and welcoming community of Jesus' disciples. Thank you for praying for each other and our local and global communities. Thank you for adapting to different ways of worshiping together and serving in ministry together. I am grateful for the many ways you continue to share the love of Christ with others in these times.

This month, I am particularly appreciative of the opportunity we have through the offering of letters for Bread for the World. This is a way we can still be involved in the focused mission of reaching out to children and youth. This is a way we can still work on overcoming hunger. One of my favorite memories of Friedens this past year was looking across the narthex and seeing folks in their eighties writing letters with elementary students for the Bread for the World offering of letters. Over the years, Friedens has grown in our participation in the offering of letters. I am excited and grateful that we can still offer ourselves to God, to others, and to ourselves in this way - we are, after all, all siblings of one another - when one of God's precious ones is hungry, we are hungry, too, of body and spirit. We hope you'll be able to participate in the offering of letters for Bread for the World to ask our governmental leaders to work to make sure people receive the support they need in order to have food to eat even during this pandemic and in the times to come. You will find information about how to participate below.  

Please be in touch if you have any questions - pastorsarah@friedensucc.org.  Thank you. 

With gratitude, deep care, and the love of Jesus~  Sarah

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you
gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in...  

Matthew 25:35

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Pastor Marc Hayden Pastor Marc Hayden

Pastor's Paragraph - May 14, 2020

Dear Members, Friends and Staff of Friedens Church,

I love you.

I love you so much that I have been staying home as much as possible to help stem the tide of the virus

I love you so much that when…

Dear Members, Friends and Staff of Friedens Church,

I love you.

I love you so much that I have been staying home as much as possible to help stem the tide of the virus

I love you so much that when I have to go out into a public space, I wear a mask and keep social distance.

I love you so much that I will gladly abide by the decision of the Council of Ministries for when it is safe to return to the church campus for activities, because I know our leaders' priority is the health and safety of all of us.

I love you so much that when we can be in person together again, I will refrain from shaking hands and hugging you, even though I will be thrilled to see you.

I love you so much that when we can be in person together again, I will wear a mask, keep a safe distance and do whatever I can to keep us all safe.

I love you so much that you are in my daily prayers and always in my heart.

I love you so much that I will remain available for pastoral care via text or calls and lead worship virtually with our devoted team of staff and leaders as long as needed.

I love you and I am so grateful for your love.

Most sincerely,

Pastor Marc

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Pastor Pam Taylor Pastor Pam Taylor

Pastor's Paragraph - May 7, 2020

A Quiet Center

I have been fascinated by the pictures of animals being drawn into cities because of the lack of traffic and people during the Pandemic. I have seen herds of elk in Japanese cities and in Estes Park, Colorado. The pictures look so peaceful with animals instead of traffic!

A Quiet Center

I have been fascinated by the pictures of animals being drawn into cities because of the lack of traffic and people during the Pandemic. I have seen herds of elk in Japanese cities and in Estes Park, Colorado. The pictures look so peaceful with animals instead of traffic!

The pictures of animals replacing people remind me of being in the world and yet not of the world. They portray a spiritual peace that we do not often experience. To me this represents a quiet space where inner awareness and freedom can grow. It reminds me of Jesus going to quiet places with a quieted inner spirit. In these places, free from the noise of the world, I am sure that he could hear the Father more clearly.

When all is quiet we can more intimately experience the dance of the Trinity in our inner spirit. Being free to hear God speaking to us, around us, and through us is so awesome. Even in the times that are foreboding, the voice of our great leader God is the gift that comes with our hardship and fear. God's love becomes a gift to be received and shared along with the enormity of the cosmos. This is the blessing of the spiritual journey, a time for positive change, not a singular trek but rather a journey with all of God's creation.

My challenge to you is to think about the rose (beauty), thorn (challenge) and bud (potential) of what God's journey is saying to you during this period of time. 

Call to me and I will answer you,  
and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.
  

Jeremiah 33:3 ESV

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